That one Thing

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Take it slow, mommas.

I don't know about you, but sometimes, I really can only focus on ONE THING a day in order to keep myself from crashing hard.

Sometimes, that ONE THING is cool, uplifting, and super zen. Other times, that ONE THING is stressful, overwhelming, and a super downer, but I've found that if I focus on just ONE THING, even if it's hard, I can handle it. 

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My ONE thing today --

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MY ONE THING: #LetHerFall & #LetHerFail


This article, written by Angie Collins (me:), originally appeared HERE via AdoreThemParenting.com . The version here has been updated but each "reason" remains the same:-).


First, a little backstory...

I met my husband when we were both freshmen in college. At almost 18 years of age, though he was past the active skateboarding stage, he was not out of the skateboarding culture or his passion for the sport. For him, skateboarding had many benefits. But it is also not just for boys anymore, skateboarding is also a great sports option for girls.


When the topic of skating came up with friends, my otherwise quiet and reserved boyfriend would suddenly, and excitedly, shout out terms I had never heard before. He would ramble on about the contests in which he had participated. And as we would drive through his childhood neighborhood on the weekends, he would reminisce about his earlier days of skateboarding. He skateboarded in ditches, in front of convenience stores, and on the street.


Back in the day, this was the world of skateboarding and of skateboarders – they were mini rebels, constantly searching the neighborhood for pavement that their boards could glide or grind on.


These days, skateboarding has gone mainstream and communities have constructed safe skate parks with ramps, rails and “bowls”. More youth are skateboarding now then ever before. However, the number of girls present in these skate parks remains limited. Below are 9 reasons why we should encourage girls to try skateboarding, the benefits that each one offers, and why this is a great sport for girls.


My skateboarder husband and I now have three daughters; twin seventeen-year-olds and a fifteen-year-old. Skateboarding has now been part of our daughters’ lives for over a decade. They each own four boards, and we have had "daddy-constructed" halfpipes in our backyard for them to perfect their turns. Though my daughters are great swimmers, have also participated in baseball, and one has an intense love of volleyball, skateboarding has given them some solid life skills unlike other sports for girls, or activities in which they have been involved. Of course, their love of skateboarding came directly from their Dad’s own love and passion for the sport, but the benefits of skateboarding has convinced me that other girls should be encouraged to join the sport.



9 REASONS WHY YOUR DAUGHTER SHOULD TRY SKATEBOARDING


1. SKATEBOARDING TEACHES GIRLS TO OVERCOME THEIR FEARS AND TO BE BRAVE, AND TO ACCEPT FAILURE


Skateboarding has now been a part of my daughters’ lives for as long as they can remember. They have fallen hundreds of times. They have also seen their dad, at 48 years old, bleed while skateboarding. And, they have seen other skateboarders attempt new tricks but fail again and again.


My girls have gotten back up and grabbed their boards. I’m sure this is because they have also seen their Dad wipe the blood away, throw on a bandage, and grab his board. They have seen their fellow skateboarders eventually master a trick that seemed impossible two to three weeks prior.


Skateboarding teaches girls to be brave. It teaches girls to be ok with failure, and not ok with giving up. Girls become comfortable with allowing their fear to guide them in understanding their physical limitations, while learning to push their limits in spite of their fear.

2. SKATEBOARDING IS ONE OF THOSE EXHILARATING ACTION SPORTS FOR GIRLS THAT GIVES A SENSE OF ADVENTURE AND THRILL, BUT WITHOUT EXCESSIVE COST

My daughters love roller coasters. They love action. Skateboarding is an action sport that can give girls a taste of adventure and a venue for experiencing a thrill, but in a safe and productive way. Skateboarding is a sport without rules. There are no limits on what a skateboarder can do; new tricks are constantly being created. And, once the skateboard and safety equipment have been purchased, participating in the sport is free. Just run out and hit the pavement!

3. SKATEBOARDING GIVES GIRLS A COMPLETE SENSE OF FREEDOM


Skateboarding can also be a great stress reliever. Skateboarders can lose all sense of time when skating which brings a true sense of freedom when participating in the sport. No buzzers are controlling how long they stay out, no referee is indicating what they may be doing incorrectly, and no teammates are around who can steal their direct connection to their “game” or their time in the “game”. When a skater has committed to a skating session, they are in full control of their own movement, time and space. When asked what she liked best about skateboarding, one of my girls, at the age of twelve said “I don’t know. I feel free.”

4. SKATEBOARDING PROVIDES A VENUE FOR SELF-EXPRESSION


Another great benefit of this wonderful sport for girls is that skateboarding is an art form. It allows for girls to be creative and express themselves. One of my twins loves to “drop-in” on ramps. Standing on the edge of the top of a half-pipe ramp, she pushes most of her weight to the back of the skateboard while her front foot rests strategically on the front.


When she’s ready, she forces her body down towards the ground of the ramp, bends her knees, and rolls down. She can do this repeatedly all afternoon. Her twin has no interest in “dropping in”. Instead, she loves zooming around the inside of the skate park bowl. A bowl pretty much resembles a drained swimming pool. When she picks up enough speed, her petite frame rides around the inside of the bowl almost parallel to the ground.


My youngest simply enjoys the wind blowing through her hair as she glides up and down the short hills in the park. All three of my girls enjoy skating just the same, but each of them have a different way of creatively expressing their individuality.

5. SKATEBOARDING ENCOURAGES GIRLS TO TAKE HEALTHY RISKS AND FEEL A SENSE OF PRIDE FROM THEIR ACCOMPLISHMENTS


I asked one of my daughters if the skills she’s developed from skateboarding helped her in anything else in her life? She replied, “When I try to do something for the first time, I’m a little scared. But when I think about it, I know I can do it because I’ve overcome fears in skateboarding.”


Girls also learn to appreciate their own abilities. In many schools across the US, achievement is expressed in grades and test scores. A student’s level of success is determined by comparing their test scores to that of their peers.


Skateboarders understand individuality, and find true value in individual achievements. They feel a sense of personal pride in meeting the goals they set for themselves; because the skateboarder is ultimately in charge of their own learning. Skateboarders are also practicing self-discipline and self-determination – essential skills for success in life. Skateboarding also benefits girls by allowing them to see that taking healthy risks can lead to accomplishment. This sense of accomplishment means girls gain better self-esteem and confidence.

6. SKATEBOARDING BENEFITS GIRLS BY MAKING THEM PHYSICALLY STRONGER AND HEALTHIER


Skateboarding is tough, and it provides a lot of exercise.


According to *Everskate*, skateboarding burns calories, helps build endurance, increases flexibility, improves precision and motor coordination, increases pain tolerance, and teaches fall prevention as well as how to fall correctly. Skateboarding also gives girls better balance and better muscle tone. Participating in sports for girls on a regular basis helps to fight obesity, diabetes, and promotes a healthy heart.

7. SKATEBOARDING IS A GREAT SPORTS OPTION FOR GIRLS AND THEIR SCHEDULES, AS IT CAN BE DONE ON THEIR OWN TIME – UNLIKE WAITING FOR A TEAM’S SCHEDULE


With demanding school, family and social schedules, fitting in a fitness routine can be challenging. Trying to find team sports for girls, or a scheduled sports lesson, that fits your daughter’s limited free time can be difficult. Or, you may find that being on a sports team or taking part in sports lessons is terrific for your daughter two to three days a week, but she would like to do something else physical for a little while on the other days.


Skateboarding affords children a chance to be active for as little or as long as they would like. Whether they want to grab their “penny” board and glide down the sidewalk for twenty minutes, or they want to grab another board and hit the quarter pipe for a couple of hours. Or perhaps they want to try out new tricks. The amount of time a child invests is up to the child and the parent.

8. SKATEBOARDING CAN BE A GREAT BEGINNING OR EXTENSION OF FUTURE SPORTS FOR GIRLS THAT LAST WELL INTO ADULTHOOD, LIKE SNOWBOARDING AND SURFING


Although you may not see many fifty year olds carving it up at your local skate ramp, if you visit the beaches of Hawaii or California, I can guarantee you will see more “mature” surfers in the water. This is because many people find surfing not only relaxing, but also a great form of exercise for those who have developed good balance, and for those who seek a sense of peaceful adventure.

9. SKATEBOARDING BRINGS GIRLS INTO A NEW COMMUNITY WITH OTHER SKATERS

Skateboarders belong to a subculture where praise comes from their fellow competitor. Visit a skate park and you will see how beginners and semi-professionals take turns sharing a skate ramp. The “one rider” at a time rule is consistently applied from park to park.


Master a cool trick and you will hear words of encouragement from nearby skateboarders. Fall without serious injury and you will see on the face of fellow skaters, an encouraging look to get back up and try again. And, as my husband exemplifies, if you are part of the skateboarding community or subculture, you are a lifelong member.



What if there was ONE THING you could do today to start saving money today?! My favorite thing may surprise you!!!


MY ONE THING: #FollowHashtagsStrategically


Yes, Folks - you read that correctly - my favorite thing involves social media! AHHH! Hey, I'm on Instagram at least once a day anyway. And apparently I'm not much different than those teenagers out there who find themselves blown away by the highly entertaining Reels on social media. But, while they are indeed fun and entertaining, I've discovered some value in following strategically chosen hashtags that have actually given me great life hacks! Some of these life hacks have actually saved me some extra pocket change, as well as time.


The hashtag #MasonJarSalads has given me lots of salad ideas that I can prep ahead for the week. Not only great for lunches, but also as a grab-n-go snack at home or away. As photos or videos show up in my feed, I can decide within seconds whether it looks like something I'd like to make on my own. No internet search needed to find new salad ideas.


#HighProteinSnacks introduced me to Frozen Greek Yogurt Bark. Simple to make and it saves money since I'm not grabbing candy bar when I'm "hangry"!


Search for a #Hashtag that fits your needs and interests! You may be pleasantly surprised at the wealth of ideas available at your fingertips via social media! Just remember to make a deal with yourself - limit your social media time down to just a few minutes a day or you may find that you're gathering ideas for saving money but losing time for other valuable activities by spending too much time scrolling!


Of course, besides Instagram, Pinterest is also fabulous for the same reason!

 

DO YOU HAVE A FAVORITE HASHTAG YOU'D LIKE TO SHARE WITH OTHERS THAT MIGHT HELP SAVE MONEY OR TIME?! LET US KNOW!